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Writer's pictureAllen Jose Saji

I SEE YOU, I FEEL YOU & I AM YOU

Updated: Jul 18


I FEEL YOU | Koott Wellness

Have you ever flipped a coin and wondered what might the other side feel? Other than the endless possibilities for a coin to flip in anime, statistics limits it to two; either the head or the tail. So, for the reality it is ideally two; either show up or left out.

Lying down staring at the fast-spinning fan Joe lost track of his thoughts. A few days before he was wandering amidst a thousand people and now in his home, lying in his bed, lost in his thoughts. Turning to the side he finds a notebook, curiously reached it, and opened. He couldn’t find a single word other than the title given; it said “The Thought Manuel”. Leaning back to his pillow amused with irony Joe couldn’t take his eyes out of that title. He read it over and over. The words shattered into letters and started to float, swing, and move before his eyes. His head was filled with every kind of thought still he couldn’t translate them into any form of language.


Joe was a young adult in his early 20s, loved to spend time with homies, suits into any group of people with any conversations, funny, friendly, and enthusiastic; a true extrovert by Carl Jung. Six weeks ago, he had to go through a treatment that required a lot of rest. It was a solitary prison for him. Relatives and neighbors visiting were annoying. The fruits they brought were only the best parts of these visits. Even the chirping of birds made him jealous. He even wished the corona wave to strike back to get rid of all this.


Every great personality who walked on the face of the earth realized that ‘man is a social being’. And being social requires a certain time to be social. Mahatma Gandhi once mentioned: “Without interrelation with society, man cannot realize his oneness with the universe or suppress his egotism”. Even the extreme introverts need to set their social environment. This explains a lot about being lonely.


Many studies have been done and are going on in on this topic for a long time. Initially, it was just confined to clinical sectors whereas now, researchers are focusing on all the three sectors of activities. The covid pandemic has done a great deal to every human being on the surface and outside the earth. Many went into a hibernation mode from being social and began enjoying the company of their own and their smallest circle. While others got frustrated and blew their brains out. While a bunch of people discovered new skills a majority went in circles to figure out what to do with all this time.


Cognitive theorists conceptualized loneliness as a perceived dissatisfaction between the actual and the desired satisfaction with one's social relationships (L. Peplau & Perlman, 1982). Joe in the above mention story was dissatisfied because of the detachment from his social environment. The adaptable nature of the individual and the gravity of the situation they face determines how they understand and respond to the sitch.


Various steps can be chosen to cool down the situation from being frustrated jerks to pleasing creative sapiens. Many new-gen innovative start-ups like koott give a space for us to speak and lend a heart to listen. Psychology professionals and behavioral experts are being hired by big guns like Microsoft and Google. This realization has been revolutionized by the up growing social domains and has marked a boom in the mental health industry.

This article is for the people who have been trapped in the circle going all round and round endlessly. This may not be the best time for you to show how brave you were, but it’s ok. There are people who know what it sounds like to be withdrawn and abandoned. It’s ok to be sensitive, concerned and anxious. But never let those rule you to the end, as this is just the beginning of your life fulfilling journey.

I FEEL YOU | Koott Wellness

 

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