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Writer's pictureShuhaima Hanna Katti

What will you do if you are stuck on an island all alone?

Updated: May 26


All alone

“Sharing is caring”!


“Sharing the last slice of pizza” “sharing your favorite clothes”, and ”sharing the Spotify playlist” are always there in couples and friends taglines or social media profiles. So clearly sharing is a form of expressing love and reassuring the presence of someone.

As time passes, the thing which we share is changing, like the change in pickup line from “Will you be there to share my life” to “will you be there to share my quarantine”.


But why sharing is a form of caring, as a social animal-human being cannot live alone, he always needs at least a person by his side. “That's why a man left on an island” is a hypothetical question to a fictional movie or novel. And many movies just based on the very same line mostly make us laugh, but eventually, it makes people think and realize the need for love and care. Usually, such stories make people realize to cherish the people around them.

So a companion is undoubtedly the necessary thing. Companionship is important for establishing a sense of belonging. Without it, people can become lonely and even depressed, which is why society needs to make more of an effort to meet the companionship needs of every individual.

According to Dr. Abraham Maslow, pioneer of the “third force” of psychology, Humanistic psychology the need for love and belonging come right after the need for security and physiological needs like food, water, sex. What is the need for affiliation? By definition, affiliation is the inclination to seek the company of others. Animals tend to separate into groups, flocks, and schools for food, migratory purposes, or protection. In humans, affiliation has a lot less to do with instincts and a lot more with motives. For example, when people are afraid they tend to seek comfort by being with a group of people for support. The company which they seek may aid them in calming down and reducing the anxiety. It is also suggested that people tend to seek others who are in the same situation for reassurance (Piotrowski, 2004).


Having a companion alongside in the journey of life is like having food at a level. You cannot live by avoiding it completely.

Companionship is a vital connection with somebody which gives a sense of togetherness. If you have a companion, you enjoy their company and want to spend time with them. Companionship is a basic human need, and when these needs are not fulfilled it can cause emotional and physical problems.


If you need just a person alongside, then it would be easier in a population of 759 crores worldwide. But still, why do humans feel lonely and depressed and find themselves alone in a mass?

The answer is very simple yet thought-provoking. The answer is that Because humans can think. Environmentalists suggest the thinking ability of humans as a gift because that made Homosapien's from primates. Indeed it's a gift, but what happens when the angel turns to be an evil in disguise, it's too dangerous then. People often think a lot before feeling companionship because every human mind is unique, sometimes the mind won't let you see what exactly others want you to see. Then you pass judgments. So having a person who just understands the problem in your own perspective and the one who does not mix personal beliefs to make your problem as aviyal is really really important.


People often find shelter in peer groups and friends. But that too doesn't work sometimes. Why?

Because when you are emotionally connected you try to help them by sympathizing with them. You try to help them without knowing where the actual problem lies. You try to find solutions where the best is removing the cause of the problem. Your friend loves you and Love is a barrier sometimes.


Then who should be a real companion, an effective companion?

A companion should be trustworthy, non-judgemental, understanding, who can empathize rather than sympathizing, and sometimes we just need a good listener. The best koott somebody could feel nowadays is the support of a counselor. Good counseling should reduce the client’s confusion, allowing them to make effective decisions leading to positive changes in their attitude and/or behavior. The ultimate aim of counseling is to enable the client to make their own choices, reach their own decisions, and act upon them.

Counseling comes up with companionship with a safe emotional environment in which an individual can explore difficult personal issues.


A companion will let you feel each bit of your life and do not interfere where you are really capable of beating all of it alone. The game is still yours.


All Alone | Koott


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